building inner confidence

Building Inner Confidence

I’ve discovered a really interesting connection of patterns. I’ve been shifting this “it’s safe for me to be seen” pattern in all its variations for years. It’s one of my big ones.

I’ve also noticed that I have some resistance to building an email list for my business and emailing them.

I’ve been paying a premium email service monthly and have not grown my email list above 300 subscribers in over 4 years.

I know how important an email list is and that you need to nurture and connect with them. I just wasn’t doing it. These patterns were completely in my way, and I didn’t realize until now.

There is so much to learn about an online business and the email list is something that totally fell by the wayside for me, for years.

Also I wasn’t feeling confident for a long time. 

Confident in my message, in that people actually wanted to hear what I would say.

So I did the classic thing, and avoided building an email list, and barely emailed the small list I had.

This year my focus is really on getting my business systems set up so that everything is organized and I can feel the fun of running an online business. To be consistent with what is working as I discover more and more of what works for me in who I am now, and not who I was starting this online business journey in 2016. 

I’ve been cobbling things together as I learn more about marketing and growing a business, and I’ve got some patterns of thought of “oh I’m not legitimately doing this because I don’t have my email list set up properly and I don’t do this other things I should do.

So interesting how patterns of self doubt keep creeping in.

Fascinating how confidence isn’t something that’s done once and done forever.

After spending 12 months intensely focused on shifting my limiting beliefs around money last year, I’m really noticing how much that’s changed things for me in that area.

Everything is working out, and I’m so happy I’ve made those changes.

Next phase is building up my confidence so that it drowns out that self doubt voice.

If you’ve got a strong critical voice that’s constantly telling you that you’re not good enough, or that you’re doing it wrong, you’re really self sabotaging things in your life and business.

Not good enough

You don’t need to go digging at it, and if you do you’ll probably not find an end. However sometimes it’s worth asking it questions back.

For instance, if your inner critical voice is constantly telling you “you didn’t do enough!”.

Stop and from a neutral feeling place ask it something like “what would be enough?”.

Sometimes you’ll get an answer back, and sometimes there’ll be nothing there.

Like that thought of “didn’t do enough” was just a sound bite playing on a loop and taking a moment to ask what would be enough interrupted it.

Asking questions is a powerful thing. 

Most of the time I’ve noticed these critical voices in our heads are just snippet of conversations or things we imprinted from when we were kids. Some moment that made you feel terrible, and you’re still using it to berate yourself.

It’s time to stop that.

Tell yourself “I am enough. I do enough”. Every time that other voice comes up. Imprint this new statement until you believe it.

I am enough

You are living your life and you can only live it for you. Your happiness matters and you are the only one who can choose to feel happy.

You can’t control other people and what they do and say, but you can control how you feel about it.

And here’s a big not so secret secret:
If you change how you feel about someone, they will eventually change how they react to you, or not end up in your space enough to react to you.

This takes some doing, but you can do it. 

Are you letting yourself feel joy, and have fun and be happy these days?

What are you doing that is fun for you?

If this is something you struggle with use the affirmation:
I allow myself to be happy.

I’ve been doing that one for nearly 30 days and it’s rather fabulous. I’m letting myself feel like I’m having fun when I’m doing fun activities, and as fun is on the same frequency of abundance, I’m also allowing in more money as a result.

Previously I was feeling guilty while I was having down time and doing fun things. This counter productive.

Let yourself feel the fun. You deserve fun in your life. You deserve to be happy. You are the only one who can decide to be fun and feel happy.

If you want assistance with affirmations or installing a success mindset, book a free call with me and let’s connect.

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